Over a lukewarm cup of coffee and a living room full of toddlers, I somehow managed to read an article in its entirety and I have to say, what a breath of fresh air. I’m Done Making My Kids Childhood Magical, offers a fantastic perspective for parents feeling the pressure in this showoff society we live in. As a person who advocates traveling with your kids and having magical family travel, I just have to explain why I agree with this article and why other parents should breathe a sigh of relief. Finally, there is no more pressure to make your child’s childhood magical, because being a kid is magical.
The Crazy Things We Do
In her article, Bunmi Laditan goes on to explain all the crazy things we do for kids today, elaborately themed birthday parties, designer threads, decked out bedrooms and extravagant vacations. Her point is basically that we don’t need any of the glitter to give our children happy childhood memories or prove we love them, because for most of us, our happiest memories are of the simple everyday pleasures of just being a kid.
True, we don’t need to make our everyday lives a grand production for the sake of the children. Let’s be honest, for many of us parents, kids give us the outlet to express our own creativity; to revisit our own childhood whimsy. I’ve said before in my blog that I am not a big a birthday party person. In general, I feel like they are too much work and too much money for the reward. I would rather take the money and spend it taking my kids on an adventure, but traveling is what I enjoy. See how I made my son’s birthday fun for all of us in St. Patrick’s at Newport Dunes, HERE.
Opulently themed kids’ parties may appear to be a way for parents to boast, but I know that some women honestly love to decorate, throw parties and entertain guests. Their kids give them an excuse to satisfy this appetite. Honestly, I don’t have that desire, so I don’t do it. We may not have extravagant parties, but my kids aren’t lacking excitement about their birthdays because all the important elements are there: friends, family, food and little extra attention. Simple.
Magical Family Travel without Travel
The same applies to travel. Laditan states, that you can have a perfectly magical childhood without going on a single vacation. Interestingly enough, I totally agree. Jigga-What? Yup, I agree. How can a woman who has based her whole blog on traveling with kids possibly agree? Well, it simple. It’s not about the trip, rather it’s more about the family bonding and the experiences a family shares together. In actuality, togetherness is what makes for a truly magical family travel. See my post on Traveling in Place, HERE.
In my Who is HotMama page (HERE), I am guilty of using the term magical. I am not going to front, I like that word. Okay, I love that word. It’s a fantastic adjective and it best describes my childhood and how I want my kids to think of theirs, but it shouldn’t be forced.
I am traveler, that’s who I am. Trips are not planned to solely bring magic into my kids’ lives. I plan trips to keep my sanity and as a result my kids get amazing experiences. Kids like being with their family and that’s what travel, for us, is about. We separate ourselves from our daily hectic schedule to just take time to be together. In fact, my mother said the thing she loves most about our RV trips is that for four days no one is rushing off to work or other various activities. We are all in one place together for a block of time with nothing more to do than talk to each other. That me say that I love when I hear my kids and my nephews talk among each other about their shared adventures. For RV tips, see my post, HERE.
Furthermore, magical family travel doesn’t have to be about exotic far off places. It’s about the escape; the opportunity to let go of all the distractions in our busy lives that keep us from merely enjoying our families. My blog isn’t advocating parents to drop crazy amounts of money on extreme vacations or to brag about what my kids get to do. It is simply to share my stories, my family travel advice and all my money saving/sanity saving tips. Basically, I’ve learned along the way and I want to help others travel with kids easily. That’s it.
If you love to throw parties, then by golly, throw those parties. Like to decorate? Then add your flare to those bedrooms. If you love fashion, then dress those babies to the nines. Finally, if you love to travel, keep traveling and take those crazy kids with you.
Here’s to the magic of families!
Do you feel pressure to make your kids’ childhood magical?
What magical memories are you making?